Wednesday, August 11, 2010

on being alone

Thanks twitter I saw this lovely video, which is in part created by Andrea Dorfman (who is a Halifax film director that I love). I feel comfortable being alone and I loved that small break between boyfriends and roommates when I had my own little bachelorette apartment just off of Commercial Drive. That space gave me time to recover and grow and get to know myself a little better. I took my bike to local parks and read under trees in the middle of the day. I wandered new neighbourhoods alone in my thoughts. I went to matinees and loved being in the dark cold theater by myself with only a handful of others.

This weekend my husband will head off on a 2 week bike trip and I'll be left alone for the first time since we've been together. I'm slightly nervous that while he's out riding the mountainous roads that a bear will make a lunch out of his face or that he'll get smooshed by a careless RV driver – I want him returned to me in fine form at the end of his holiday. I will miss him greatly over those 2 weeks, I'm sure. What I'm not nervous about is being alone. It does feel weird that it's been about 8 years since I'll have spent days alone, but now that I'm thinking about it, I am excited about getting back in touch with the "alone me".


Blogger arajane said...

i'd been seeing this all over facebook and twitter, but finding it here convinced me to finally watch it. so glad i did! i love my pal and boyfriend very much, but i, too, love being alone.

6:36 AM  
Anonymous kickpleat said...

ara jane, me too. i had seen it floating about but didn't click on it until someone i know linked to it. it's so sweet.

9:59 AM  
Anonymous katie said...

Thanks for posting this. Like you and arajane, I'd seen this floating around but hadn't watched it until you posted it. My best friend is going through a divorce right now and she's terrified of being lonely, having never lived alone before. Exactly what she needs to see right now! Thanks.

1:57 PM  
Blogger bellcurves said...

good luck flying solo! enjoy your girl-alone-time, or as my friend likes to say when her hubby is away, "GAT".

9:45 AM  
Blogger laviecerise said...

After you posted this, and HM followed suit, I finally I watched. I will now continue the chain-letterness of it and pass it along. Thanks!

10:56 AM  
Blogger Wolfie and the Sneak said...

I used to love going to the bookstore alone or even out to eat by myself but it's easy to forget how nice alone time can be when you're in a relationship.
have fun!

5:15 AM  
Blogger Fynn Larie said...

Even if we know all these things about alone time, it is wonderful to see them so artfully put together and narrated.

8:11 AM  
Blogger Joseph Gregory said...

"breath seeking peace and salvation"

11:03 AM  
Anonymous Christine R said...

I have been enjoying reading your blog, it takes me back home as I grew up on Vashon Island not far from where you are.

I wish you luck on your solo time, use it to do things that will pamper yourself, try not to worry all will be ok and the homecoming will be special.

4:30 PM  

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